The great Paraben debate

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By this time most people have at least heard the word “Paraben” and have an inkling that it’s something to be avoided, hence the cascade of products, including Whet Lubricant, that have labels (ex)claiming that they are “paraben free”! But how much of this is based on fear-mongering (or Green-washing) and to what extent should be really be concerned about our products containing Parabens.

Firstly, let’s clarify what Parabens are and how they are used. In a nutshell, Parabens are derived from para-hydroxybenzoic acid (PHBA) which occurs naturally in many fruits & veggies including blueberries, carrots, cherries and onions.  They have been used since the 1950’s in many products to prevent the growth of bacteria, yeast and mould, which is almost inevitable without the use of some type of preservative. According to the Chemical Safety Facts Organization, these are the same PHBA’s found in our bodies naturally due to the breakdown of certain amino acids, and the “Parabens used in cosmetics are identical to those found in nature, and the human body quickly changes them into natural PHBA and eliminates them”

Back in 2005 when we first started manufacturing Whet Lubricant, Parabens were the default preservative. Methyl and Propyl Parabens, in their specified and minute, quantities provided excellent protection for the product against microbial organisms, bacteria and mould and offered a highly acceptable shelf life, which appeared beneficial for both the producers and the purchasers.

At a point, studies* showed that Parabens COULD potentially mimic the activity of the female hormone estrogen, causing endocrine disruption. Estrogen has been implicated in the occurrence of certain types of breast cancer and has been found in breast tumours, so it is not surprising that they soon got a bad rep. These studies* were conducted in animals and involved dosing the animals with extremely high amounts of parabens (far greater that humans would be exposed to either under actual conditions or with repeated use. Most of these studies have since been largely discredited by scientists and no direct link has been found between cosmetic products containing parabens and cancer.

In the case of a personal lubricant, one is using it on some of the most sensitive and absorbent body tissue, so it makes sense to play it safe. For this reason we stopped using Parabens in any form several years ago (watch out for labels that list them as Alkyl parahydroxy benzoates). There are several preservatives that provide an alternative to Parabens, and from our perspective it seems wise to play it safe. We use a combination of Sodium Benzoate and Potassium Sorbate in our current Whet water-based lubricants and are continually in a process of research and development as guided by the latest research as well as the feedback from our clients and the increasingly knowledgeable and discerning consumer.

To purchase our paraben-free Whet Personal Lubricants contact Allure Sensuality for RETAIL orders and

WHOLESALE and CUSTOM BRANDED orders email Whet Personal Products;

Dare to say the C word

Silence is deadly

Cervical Cancer is a reality, it’s time for a Pap Smear

Let’s face it, none of us really want to go for a Pap smear. It’s way down on our list of entertaining activities, and so easy to postpone… well indefinitely. It doesn’t help that many of us think we are somehow exempt from risk, or may have encountered hostility to our sexuality from the medical profession. Media coverage about the importance of testing for LGBT women is scant and health care providers are sometimes well-meaning, but poorly informed. There are a zillion reasons why, as women who love women, we don’t get tested.

Wendy, 38, has been married to Amy for 5 years says. “When I was in my 20’s I was told, by a gynaecologist, that the only way to get HPV (the Human Papilloma Virus is responsible for most cases of cervical cancer) was from a man. Because of this, I didn’t go for a Pap smear until I was 38, when a close friend was diagnosed with cervical cancer.” Luckily for Wendy her test was negative and she now has regular Pap smears.

What is the HPV virus?

HPV is an extremely common virus and statistics indicate that 4 out of five people will have HPV at some point in their lives. The HPV virus is mainly spread through genital skin contact during sexual activity. This does not need to be penetrative sex and certainly includes sex between women.

Professor Lynnette Denny, Head of the Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology at UCT, explains that “HPV is transmitted by skin to skin contact – so HPV on the fingers can also be transmitted as can oral-genital sex.”

HPV is an extremely hardy virus that is resistant to heat and drying, able to survive undetected on the skin and even inanimate objects, like clothing.1

The good news is that having an abnormal Pap smear result does not mean that you WILL develop cancer. The even better news is that in about 90% of people the HPV infection will clear on its own within two years. Only in a small number of cases does the virus persist and if left undetected and untreated, may lead to cervical cancer. By having regular Pap smears abnormal cell changes can be detected, monitored and treated if necessary thereby preventing cancer.

It couldn’t happen to me…

Like Davina, 43, you may be one of the many women who believed that they do not need to have Pap smears. However, in 2013 she was diagnosed with stage IIIB cervical cancer, by which time the cancer has spread to her pelvic wall. She had to undergo both chemo and radiation therapy, which she describes as “agonising on both a physical and emotional level.” Doctors estimated that she had developed the cancer ten years earlier. At the time she had no symptoms and was seeing an alternative health practitioner, who did not recommend going for a Pap smear. “I wish that he had encouraged me to have a Pap smear, because it is a hectic journey to have taken just because I didn’t go for a simple test”.

Worldwide, cervical cancer kills one women every two minutes and is the second biggest cause of female cancer mortality. It is the “number 1 ranked cancer in women aged 15 to 44 in Southern Africa and one of the leading female cancer death causes in South Africa”.

A study done by the University of Maryland School of Medicine shows that about four out of ten lesbians are not regularly screened for cervical cancer. We don’t have similar statistical studies in South Africa but a poll showed that 56% of women had never gone for a Pap smear and 12% had “gone once years ago”. It seems that South African lesbians are equally, if not more, inclined to avoid regular Pap Smears.

Who needs to have Pap smears?

The bottom line is that “if you have a cervix, regardless of your sexual orientation or gender presentation, you need a Pap smear”. Even in women who have never had sex with men, the rate of cervical abnormalities is very similar to that of heterosexual women.

Professor Lynnette Denny, says that women in same-sex relationships or who are sexually active (or have been) are definitely at risk of developing cervical cancer. “Lesbians get suboptimal care and many are at risk of cervical cancer because they have also been sexually active with men at some point in their lives.  I would screen sexually active lesbian women similarly to sexually active heterosexual women.”

The South African national policy on cervical screening allows for three smears in a woman’s lifetime taken at 10 year intervals from 30 years of age.

The South African HPV Advisory Board recommends that your first Pap smear should be at 21 or within three years of the onset of sexual activity. “Thereafter smears should be taken annually until age 30, then every three years, concluding the screening at age 65–70 years for those women who have had persistent normal smears.”

Never having had a Pap smear remains one of the highest risk factors for the development of cervical cancer. However cervical cancer is one of the most preventable of cancers.

Transgender men (transsexuals who have changed their gender from female to male) may be told that they are not at risk however this is not correct. According to a recent campaign in Ontario, Canada that is promoting Pap testing for transgender men, “If you are a trans man and you’ve had sex with men, women, and/or trans people, you can get cervical cancer. Trans guys who have cervixes- of all ages, races, cultures, classes and sexual orientations are at risk of cervical cancer.” Transmen are sometimes told that only if they still have a cervix do they need to have regular tests, however according to Check It Out,Guys , “Even trans men who have had complete hysterectomies, including removal of the cervix, may still need ‘cuff’ or ‘vault’ smears, which use cell samples taken from high in the vagina.” Transgender women who have neovaginas (a surgically-created vagina) don’t need Pap smears.

Lesbian hearts

Why don’t lesbians have regular Pap smears?

“I’ve always been more like ‘one of the guys’, so I felt ‘women’s issues’ weren’t relevant for me. ” says Alex, 34, a self- identified lesbian in an 11 year relationship. She admits that she has never had a pap smear and believed that you only need one “when you are over 45, sexually active with men, or if you have had children.” Like many of us she feels shy and reluctant to be “probed down there”.

Sharon Ludwig, Health and Support Services Manager at Triangle Project in Cape Town, says that not only is there a lack of knowledge around lesbian sexual health and misconceptions about what risks apply to us but “we live in a heteronormative society, so the assumption when we walk into a doctor’s office is that we are heterosexual. For this reason there is a “coming out” that generally is forced upon lesbians when undertaking health screenings of this nature”.

Last, but not least, she quips “there is a general dislike for that pesky little speculum” and fear around what happens during a Pap smear test.

So what really happens during a Pap smear?

A Pap smear is a screening test that looks for changes in the cells of your cervix (located at the top of your vagina), that could indicate a precancerous condition or cervical cancer. If changes to these cells are found before other symptoms occur, cervical cancer can most often be prevented.

An instrument called a speculum is placed inside your vagina in order to open it slightly. A tiny amount of tissue is removed by using a small cotton swab. This only takes a few seconds. The cells are then sent to a laboratory to be analysed.

Remember that you don’t have to be alone when you have your Pap smear. You can request that your partner or a close friend be in the room with you.

A happy ending

Amy, 48, has been in a long-term relationship with her wife Wendy. Prior to this she had a few relationships with other women (some of whom had been bi-sexual) and she had experimented with men during her teens. Although she didn’t regard herself as falling into a high-risk category she did go for regular Pap smears. She was fortunate to have a wonderful women GP that made having the test a breeze. In 2013 her Pap smear result came back as positive for HPV and she was referred to a Gynaecological Oncologist. Initially, she was uncomfortable with the idea of seeing a male doctor, “but he was so gentle and respectful that I realised that his gender didn’t matter” says Amy. After doing a colposcopy (a simple procedure similar to a Pap smear, which enables your gynaecologist to examine your cervix) he confirmed that the abnormal cells should be removed. This was done under general anaesthetic and took less than half an hour, using a procedure known as LLETZ (Large loop excision of the transformation zone). Amy says “It wasn’t actually painful at all, although I did have some bleeding for while afterwards.” A biopsy of the tissue taken showed that there were no cancerous cells and six months later her Pap smear was clear with no sign of HPV or abnormal cells.

It would be splendid if all cases could end like this, but regrettably as with Davina they don’t. Her message to all women is, “Please, don’t postpone going. Pap smears should be regular part of your health care and if your practitioner doesn’t suggest one, take responsibility for your own life and ask for one.” Ultimately, the onus is on all of us as women, regardless of our sexual orientation, to be accountable for our own sexual health and to bring lesbian health issues into the public eye.


Cape Town

“Our wonderfully caring and experienced doctor runs a medical clinic most Tuesday evenings from 6pm. Appointments can be arranged during operating hours from Mondays to Fridays either by contacting or by calling 021 686 1475.”

Pap smears are available at both Triangle women’s clinic and general medical clinic.  The women’s clinic is staffed by a female doctor and the general clinic by a male doctor.   Call Heather on 021 686 1475 for an appointment. For those who are employed, the cost of the consultation and Pap smear is R90.00. If you are unemployed, or earn less than R2000.00 there is no charge.


OUT provides direct health services to the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community including HIV testing, counselling, treatment and general lifestyle advice and support. OUT currently does not do Pap smears. They refer to a gynaecologist, GP or local clinic.

Medical aids

If you are on a Momentum, 1 Pap smear per annum it is pre authorised. You can consult with your GP or Gynaecologist. If you are on Ingwe or Access 1 Pap smear per annum it is also pre authorised, however only with your GP. On Discovery Pap smears are paid for out of your preventive screening benefit.


Winer RL et al. Detection of HPV types in fingertip samples from newly sexually active female university students. Cancer Epidemiol. Biomarkers. Prev. 2010 July;19(7):1682-1685.
For more information visit Check It Out, Guys: The Trans Men’s Pap Campaign
Womyn2womyn:  Resource site for women loving women part of OUT  LGBT well-being ((a non-profit lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender organization based in Tshwane, Pretoria, South Africa)
WHO/ICO Information Centre on HPV and Cervical Cancer (HPV Information Centre) Human Papillomavirus and related Cancers in South Africa. Summary Report 2010. Accessed 2011


Article by Marina Green 2014-0701

#Pap Smear #Cervical cancer #cervix # HPV

Lube basics 101

3-pack-hiresLubricant is the ultimate sexual accessory in every vixen’s bedroom – it hints at playfulness and sexual confidence and that a woman knows her own body needs and plans ahead to meet them. Lubricant helps to make things a little more slippery and increases pleasure sensations. In fact, lubricant acts as a sensation conductor on the skin.

Lack of knowledge about personal lubricant is however still very common. Because lube has been associated with sex problems, many women are reluctant to use it, fearing that it implies frigidity or unresponsiveness. Most of us (and many of our partners) don’t realise the significant role that lube can play in great everyday sex, and in exploring new erotic territory.

Our bodies’ own love lotion is controlled by hormones and specific circumstances including our moods, energy levels and environmental factors. We all experience times of relative “dehydration” – it’s totally normal, and we all know that insufficient lubrication can result in painful intercourse. In fact, bacterial infections are often a direct result of too little lubrication coupled with penetration. The vaginal mucosa is a sensitive and delicate membrane, so chaffing can easily result in abrasions and irritation.

Many women tolerate significant discomfort during sex without knowing what to do or how to communicate about it. Since we’re often pressed for time and many of us struggle to communicate our likes and dislikes to our partner, penetration can often occur before our vagina is properly aroused and lubricated. So, it’s useful to have the choice of adding a lubricant when sharing a quickie. With a dab of lube you can also enjoy foreplay together until vaginal arousal is more fully felt.

Another great advantage of using lubricant is that it lessens the chance of condom breakage and condoms work and feel better when lubricated. It’s also fun to use on other erogenous parts of the body- like either partner’s nipples. Of course, lube is essential for anal play because unlike the vagina the anus does not self-lubricate and the anal membrane can be injured if there is too little lubrication.
Buying lube should be an easy everyday purchase. Here are a few options to consider when choosing our lubricant:

These are made from petroleum jelly, mineral oil or petrolatum, such as Vaseline. The problem with petroleum-based lubes is that they quickly destroy latex and should never be used with condoms, diaphragms, cervical caps or latex toys. They may also be drying and toxic to mucous membranes and it is generally recommended that people avoid them.

The advantage of silicone lubes is that they do not dry out and that they are waterproof. They may be used with condoms but they do harm sex toys and anything else made of silicone as the two materials react chemically.

Water-based lubricants are the closest to your natural body fluids. They can be used with latex condoms and silicone toys, are non-staining and are commonly recommended by doctors and sex therapists. Marina Green, owner of Whet Personal Products researched and then formulated the first locally produced, premium quality, affordable water-based product called Whet Personal Lubricant.

With sexual health in mind, Green was careful to formulate a product that does not disrupt the natural balance of the vaginal mucosa, so it won’t cause thrush – even the Vanilla and Berry ones. In fact, she has only added the essence of vanilla and berry to the “flavoured” version of her lubricant in order to avoid upsetting the delicate health of the vagina. It doesn’t tingle or burn, washes out easily so that bacteria cannot flourish after sex, and is specifically designed to remain moist for longer, retain its viscosity, and does not become sticky.

Oil based lubes are great for massage but they destroy condoms, diaphragms, cervical caps or latex toys containing latex and should never be used together with them. If used internally they promote bacterial growth because they coat the vagina and do not wash out.

First published by 2007