Lubricant is the ultimate sexual accessory in every vixen’s bedroom – it hints at playfulness and sexual confidence and that a woman knows her own body needs and plans ahead to meet them. Lubricant helps to make things a little more slippery and increases pleasure sensations. In fact, lubricant acts as a sensation conductor on the skin.
Lack of knowledge about personal lubricant is however still very common. Because lube has been associated with sex problems, many women are reluctant to use it, fearing that it implies frigidity or unresponsiveness. Most of us (and many of our partners) don’t realise the significant role that lube can play in great everyday sex, and in exploring new erotic territory.
Our bodies’ own love lotion is controlled by hormones and specific circumstances including our moods, energy levels and environmental factors. We all experience times of relative “dehydration” – it’s totally normal, and we all know that insufficient lubrication can result in painful intercourse. In fact, bacterial infections are often a direct result of too little lubrication coupled with penetration. The vaginal mucosa is a sensitive and delicate membrane, so chaffing can easily result in abrasions and irritation.
Many women tolerate significant discomfort during sex without knowing what to do or how to communicate about it. Since we’re often pressed for time and many of us struggle to communicate our likes and dislikes to our partner, penetration can often occur before our vagina is properly aroused and lubricated. So, it’s useful to have the choice of adding a lubricant when sharing a quickie. With a dab of lube you can also enjoy foreplay together until vaginal arousal is more fully felt.
Another great advantage of using lubricant is that it lessens the chance of condom breakage and condoms work and feel better when lubricated. It’s also fun to use on other erogenous parts of the body- like either partner’s nipples. Of course, lube is essential for anal play because unlike the vagina the anus does not self-lubricate and the anal membrane can be injured if there is too little lubrication.
Buying lube should be an easy everyday purchase. Here are a few options to consider when choosing our lubricant:
These are made from petroleum jelly, mineral oil or petrolatum, such as Vaseline. The problem with petroleum-based lubes is that they quickly destroy latex and should never be used with condoms, diaphragms, cervical caps or latex toys. They may also be drying and toxic to mucous membranes and it is generally recommended that people avoid them.
The advantage of silicone lubes is that they do not dry out and that they are waterproof. They may be used with condoms but they do harm sex toys and anything else made of silicone as the two materials react chemically.
Water-based lubricants are the closest to your natural body fluids. They can be used with latex condoms and silicone toys, are non-staining and are commonly recommended by doctors and sex therapists. Marina Green, owner of Whet Personal Products researched and then formulated the first locally produced, premium quality, affordable water-based product called Whet Personal Lubricant.
With sexual health in mind, Green was careful to formulate a product that does not disrupt the natural balance of the vaginal mucosa, so it won’t cause thrush – even the Vanilla and Berry ones. In fact, she has only added the essence of vanilla and berry to the “flavoured” version of her lubricant in order to avoid upsetting the delicate health of the vagina. It doesn’t tingle or burn, washes out easily so that bacteria cannot flourish after sex, and is specifically designed to remain moist for longer, retain its viscosity, and does not become sticky.
Oil based lubes are great for massage but they destroy condoms, diaphragms, cervical caps or latex toys containing latex and should never be used together with them. If used internally they promote bacterial growth because they coat the vagina and do not wash out.
First published by iafrica.com 2007 http://lifestyle.iafrica.com/love_sex/advice/731025.html